Still trying to buy happiness?
We are all searching to for one thing, a state of mind. Think about that! You’re searching for a feeling. Nothing can make you feel happy, you choose to allow situations or things to make you feel happy.
When they say happiness is a choice, it is true, but so many people do not grasp that. It is difficult to attain that thinking naturally because we are bombarded my social media pictures of the perfect life, the things we think we need, with perfection that is a facade. People do not post the fact they feel insecure, that they are afraid their husband is going to leave them, that they are having an affair and live in constant state of anxiety because they are afraid people are going to find out.
What if? What if people knew you had cellulite on the back of your thighs and that you were so insecure about it that you battled everyday to hide your legs and to get rid of the fat on your body? What would they think? Honestly, they wouldn’t think twice about it, even if you posted a picture of your cellulite and said I do not like this part of me. People can be cruel and heartless, so they might even post gross. Why would someone post that? Well, SHOCKER they are insecure about themselves too and it makes some people feel better when they put others down.
Why are people are afraid to be authentic?
What if people knew that you were afraid you didn’t know if you made your husband happy or not, and were afraid he was going to leave you. Some might talk about you, some might think that sucks, some wouldn’t think twice because they have things going on in their life too, and some might be happy because they have been striving to keep up with what appears to be your perfect life.
What if people found out you were having an affair? In my opinion, your spouse has the right to know and you should stop, come clean, and try to make amends with the people that were hurt by your selfish actions. If this is you, I’m not judging, I don’t know your story, but I don’t think lies help any situation. The point is, what if people found out? People might talk about you, news flash, people who talk bad about others will always find something. People might think less of you, you might lose friends, you might gain sympathy, your marriage might fall apart. The bottom line is, until you stop worrying about what others think, you’ll never be happy.
You truly can’t buy happiness. The truth is that the more you look for happiness on the outside, the more empty you feel on the inside eventually.
Until you stop buying clothes, shoes, purses, cars and so on to look happy for others or to fill the void that is a pit of unhappiness, you’ll never be happy.
What if you stopped working so hard to have the perfect house to keep all the STUFF that you’ve acquired in your lifetime that is a symbol of your past desperately trying to find happiness. What if you sold all of your clothes, decor, extra lamps you do not need (because yes 2 matching lamps at the opposite end of the tables look amazing, but if those lamps weren’t there would you survive?), extra bedding, your car and bought one outright? Would you still be you? Yes, you would still be a whole person!
Others opinions are not physically inside of you, so they only have the power you give their opinions. If you are living to impress others, you’ll never be happy.
You cannot take material objects with you. No one stands up at your funeral and discusses the great things you owned.
A friend’s father past away right after high school. Her dad was very wealthy, worked very hard, were flashy jewelry, drove expensive cars, and they lived in an amazing house. At the end of his life he said, “I bought all this stuff, made sure the house was perfect, and I can’t take it with me.”
What is the point I am trying to make? He was living to impress, he felt happier with more stuff, and then that happiness would quickly fade, he’d work harder, buy more stuff, and the cycle continued. What did he wish he had done differently? Spent time make memories with his family.
You are literally standing dead center on the road called happiness, you can’t see it because you have too much stuff blocking your view. Maybe if you put your phone down and looked around you would see a glimpse of it?
If looking at Instagram makes you sad and depressed, why are you doing something that makes you sad and depressed? Think about that, you’re doing it to yourself! But what if you miss something by putting your phone away? Miss what? A Kardashian Instagram post about their drama? Oh no, wait, you would live and nothing in your life would be worse for missing that post that you would have liked.
Speaking of the Kardashians, I do not watch their shows. However, I did watch a few episodes of Kylie’s reality show. Yes she is 19 and is famous and wealthy, but have you watched one episode of her show. I don’t know how I caught a glimpse of it, but glad I did. She doesn’t care about being famous, she admittedly said there’s the person the media portrays her as and she plays a part in that, and theres the person she really is. She cares about people and helps a lot of people in need. High five to Kylie, she might not be perfect and I don’t know what her flaws are, but she’s human. However, she’s not a self centered human that only cares about money.
I hope that at least one person reads this and starts excepting who they are and realizes they are whole and beautiful just the way they are. I hope just one person realizes that everything in our environment is going to go from good to bad, again and again. We do not have to be controlled by our environment, we can control how we feel in our environment.
It sucks that your boyfriend broke up with you or that you lost your job, but accepting what happened and moving on vs dwelling on the negative for too long only lengthens your suffering. If you accept that it hurt you and it sucks, but good things will happen to you, you let go. Surrender! Surrender to the possibilities of what lies ahead and try to find that inner excitement. Oh the possibilities!
If you tied your happiness to your job or your ex boyfriend, well maybe the time has come to think differently. Look down and see, “what this road I’m standing on is called happiness!”
Don’t look at your shoes and think, new shoes will make me happy!
What does being happy look like to you? Make a list! Visualizing what you’re searching for has many benefits. One of those benefits might be seeing “car” on your list and realizing, your car is fine!
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